We live in a world that tells girls,
"You must grow up to be something"
"You have to have a career outside the home"
"If you are a stay at home mom/wife, you are lazy, a leech on society"
"Depend on nobody but yourself"
Well, you know what?
I am done listening to it.
I am done feeling guilty for my calling.
I am done being told that I am worthless.
It's my job to raise these kids, to teach them about God, about love, about right and wrong.
It's a worthwhile job.
One I will never apologize for again.
And you know what else?
After they are grown, I may get a career.
Or I may not.
I might stay home then and spoil my grand children.
And love them.
And teach them.
Because my worth isn't in a "career."
My worth is in my God.
Proverbs 14:1
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.
Titus 2:5
To be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
I am a wife.
I am a mother.
I will no longer think that is not enough.
I'm glad you are done with that old way of thinking. I totally agree with you. I think it should be each couple's decision about child rearing, if the wife will stay at home (which in my opinion is the best way to go), wife work, husband stay at home, whatever, but society shouldn't judge each individual couple's decision. I stayed at home and when my son was 9 and my daughter 13, I looked for something to do around their school schedules and got back into doing medical transcription, something I could do at home and could, at that time, work my work schedule around their schedule, so for us, that worked out good. Might not work for others, but that didn't matter; it works for us. Just like what you are doing works for you and yours and no one should judge you for the decision you guys made about it.
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Betty,
DeleteThank you for the encouraging words. I will support every woman in her choices of how to raise her family. It is frustrating to hear the constant nagging and condemnation for the "mom community." So, I decided to listen to His voice instead of the others.
Oh darling. I was just talking about this on FB. Are we friends on FB? Kathryn Basler. It was a good discussion and it was spurred from me reading this: http://www.sunnyskyz.com/blog/116/A-Husband-s-Amazing-Response-To-She-s-A-Stay-At-Home-Mom-What-Does-She-DO-All-Day-#.UvT9Rg7mwbQ.facebook
ReplyDeleteBasically, I just feel like everyone needs to stop judging everyone else. Parenting and families are not one size fits all and different things work for different families. It is so weird to me how people wonder what a stay at home mom does all day when her kids are in school. They are only at school for 6 and a half hours! Do you people know how much cleaning and grocery shopping and laundry and picking up and planning it takes to look after a family of 6 (and one dog and one guinea pig and one hamster and fish and a huge yard)???? I tell ya, when I was working full time I had WAY more spare time at work then I do here at home. And at the same time I know why some women work too. Some families need two incomes. Some women don't like staying home. It is not for everyone. Some women have professional careers and can't take a few years off to stay with their kids and then jump back into their careers. I just think we all need to mind our own business more and not be so judgey.
SO ANYWAY...
I hear ya! I support ya! You are doing important work! And your children will definitely appreciate your sacrifice when they are older. Kudos to you! :)